Definition: betrayal (be-tray-al)
noun - a feeling of being turned back on a promise/lack of support or trust
I felt a sense of betrayal when my friends refused to support me.
This was the first in a series of betrayals.
(from Cambridge Advanced Learner’s Dictionary)
背叛【bèipàn】 betray; forsake.
出卖【chūmài】 offer for sale; sell; sell out; betray.
(from NJStar Chinese WordProcessor)
It was because of the promise of riches and fear itself that made Judas decided to sell out Jesus to the Romans which led to His crucifixion. Michael Owen was on the firing squad’s sight when Liverpool won the 2005 Champions League in Istanbul. The fans felt betrayed when he left for Real Madrid. Then somewhere in the present time, somebody else’s spouse is betraying the other half’s trust and beliefs by sleeping with another person. What was the reason for such acts of betrayal?
Could it be the promises of a better future? More cash to swing around? For revenge? Or was it out of love? If your answer is out of love, what kind of love? There’s love in everything we see and touch everyday. Children, dating young ones, parents, old folks, animals, ones passions and even inanimate objects. What kind of love are we talking about?
We love our children and that is why parents work their very best for them. We love our lovers and that is why we spent every waking our thinking of them. We love our parents and that is why we obliged to their advices and take care of them in their old age. We love our spouse so much that we kept the promise we made at the wedding alter. And that goes to the animals at home or wild ones, our passions and also for inanimate objects.
But why is it that there’s separation? A betrayal of trust. A friend might betray another for promises of getting ahead in school, in career or even to get their lovers. Why is that? Competition in education and careerwise is equal. It is the question of winner takes all. But why the lovers? Does that make them feel superior to others? Does that make them look cool? Feel wanted and appreciated? Beats me.
For those who knew my story, they would agree that when i say i couldn’t agree on “stealing” away other people’s lover. At some point i find that the very act of doing so disgusts me. Is this world really that competitive that no part of a man that is safe from such competitions? Even the wild lions in Africa have their own “safe spot”. A place where the alpha male can relax, where there is no fight for survival or food or being the leader of the pride. What about us, as the most intelligent being on the planet? Are we too smart that we fail to see that we are too in need of such a spot?
But no. No one is safe from such a thing. The humankind never feels sufficient. Never does. How can one feel safe when there is so many predators around? These predators will pounce at any opportunity! It doesnt matter if you are friend or foe.
When you learn to trust, only then can you love
Trust are earned. Not snatched. Once you fool around with it, there is no return for it. Love and trust comes hand in hand. There’s no differentiating in friendship, courtship or in wedded bliss. Where there is love, there is trust.
Throwing trust away can’t make you love or vice-versa. How can a person claimed that he/she is loving another individual when in the process of doing that they betrayed the trust of another? This is one thing that yours truly couldn’t process. I’ve been taught since a toddler that one must never fool around with trust cause trust will only come once. Throw it away and it will forever be lost.
Betrayal
The reason i chose this subject for this post is because recently i’ve been seeing a lot of that around. I’m sure a lot of my dear readers have faced or are facing this situation. My advice is:
“Back off. Back off from what you are doing because if you could do it to others, others will do it to you. You can’t blame them too. Look at yourself in the mirror. Looking right back at you is the same face that you so despise, cursed and “caused you so much misery”. You brought this upon yourself! I can’t say that i believe in karma or do i have anything to do with this. But i will not allow this to happen to those i treasure. My friends. Think about it…think real hard…”
Yes. You could be asking what are friends for if not to stand by your side. Remember this, you can’t forever rely on friends. Only you can benefit from your profits. You might want your friends to share your pain. We don’t mind if it is worth sharing it. But do you share your joys? How are you gonna share your profit from such acts? Even if you found a way to do so. i would refrain from such sharing. But that’s just me.
How would YOU feel if you are the one being betrayed? Think for a second. Put yourself in the other party’s shoes. You’d feel angry, disappointed and you turn to your friends for comfort. But what if it was your “friend” who did this. Would you still have trust in these five-letter word anymore? Without trust, what else do you have?
In the end, it is up to what is your CHOICE. Only you can make a difference. I could keep on writing and writing or talk till kingdom comes but it is still down to you. YOU make the call. It is your life and whatever choices that you make in life will reflect in your future.We, the friends, have our limit to what we can and can’t do. Should you make a right turn, it will be rewarded. But if you make a bad decision…then you must face the music. Alone. For whatever decision you make, you reap what you sow…
What it should look like up close!
